Some People Don’t Want Kids… Its Nobody’s Business But Theirs.

I have kids. Two adorable little douchebags, perfectly created in our image. Cole looks like Alex… Sy kinda looks like me (he really looks more like John Ritter, go figure). I love them, not everybody wants their own, and I think its weird how many people care about whether or not other people decide to have kids.

The abortion talk is big in the media, but I’m not even talking about that, I’m talking about ladies that lock it down like Fort Knox when it comes to sperm. Condom, spermicide, IUD, the “works”! I never thought twice about it. I never wanted to carry my own kids, necessarily (or not at all). I always thought I would foster and would still love to once we’re a little freer financially, but I always thought it was weird how much people care about other people having babies.

When I was 21-25, I worked banquets and this one woman INSISTED I would never be able to bear children if I carried too much heavy stuff. I was nonsense. People have more kids all the time after carrying heavy ass kids around. She didn’t follow that logic.

Move along a few years, and my friend, who was in her late thirties at the time, was managing a deli and worked with several late teen, early twenty-somethings who all EACH had between two and three kids. When they asked her why she didn’t have kids, she explained she used an IUD. They pressed her for more info, not understanding why she would use an IUD when it might mean not having kids…. at this point she explained that she didn’t WANT kids. They apparently did not understand this… they couldn’t grasp the concept of someone not wanting kids. They found it strange.

I’m in a book club with lots of ladies. Lots of ladies and I’m the only one that wants kids, to the best of my knowledge, and I’m for sure the only one who has any. I can only imagine the number of people up in their fertility business, who will find out they don’t have kids because they don’t want kids.

I have one friend, one lone friend, who has been a friend for almost three decades, where I push the kid question. I do it because I believe she wants kids but isn’t pushing the issue because she’s dating someone who already has two kids, and who won’t entertain the idea of having another. I don’t want her to miss her “window”, but with that said… I don’t push too hard. Its none of my business.

Heres a little list of when its okay to push people to have kids.

People You barely know – NEVER

People who employ you – Never

Your best Friend- NEVER

That list was pretty easy, WOW. If you want kids, have them! If you want other people to have kids… mind your own business, and that’s not it.